The big day is coming yet many of us are still scrambling around trying to choose the perfect gift for your hubby? What does she want? What my darling need? What should I buy? We can spend hours in shops asking ourselves these questions.
The problem is that we think about giving gifts as the exchange of physical objects. A useful alternative is to think of a gift as communication. When you give a gift to someone, what you are actually doing is speaking to them. You buy, make or discover a gift that says something to the receiver. They receive the gift, and if they are perceptive, they understand your message. Of course this is obvious, but somehow we forget it when we go to choose gifts. We focus first on the object or the need, then check what message it conveys. If you perceive this thinking, when you choose gifts, then you can quickly move towards the perfect gift. Ask yourself first, “What do I want to say to this person?” Then move on to “What can I give them that will communicate this?”. This is opposite to the more common “What can I buy them?” and then “What will they think of it?”.
This method could help you come up with some slightly off beat gifts, but at least they will be meaningful. One gift that I received a present from my best friend, a wooden engraving watch, which I love the most and still wear it until today. Why it is special is that the seller provide custom engraving and I cannot hide my happiness and surprising as the message is so beautiful and, especially, my name and her name were engraved there. This is the best present I have had so far.
The gifts that we come up with when we think of gifts as communication may be the same that we would think of in other ways. The difference may simply be that we arrive at a decision faster and with more certainty that our gift is right for that person. This is so important that eventually there was a small research about it published. This is the ultimate guide to finding the perfect gift for everyone:
The number options in the list will heavily depend on how important and close you are with that person and make sure to spend at least two full minutes writing down as many things as you can. Now brainstorm something to go with every item on that list, small or big. You don’t have to give all of those gifts, but you’re going to hit on some cool ideas you wouldn’t have otherwise, and when you combine a few of them, your spouse will appreciate how personal and thoughtful you were.
For example, you want to find an affordable gift, it could be a wallet, wrist watch or small size picture with cover. If it is the watch gift, it can come up with different materials, types and sizes.
If you are married, it would be easier for you to get the theme for the present as there is a official instruction what type of gift you should give based on year or marriage.
Let's recall how that person react with every and each of your list in the past. For example, does your adolescent son revel in nostalgia with a fun Pokemon game machine, or feed thrilled with the new soccer shoes as he was in the elementary soccer team?
It can be a small talks with them that you pretend to accidentally mention about that gift, and see how that person feel about it. Most people have a wish list, and they’ll be pretty surprised and delighted if you somehow found just the thing they wanted without even asking—and that they may have even forgotten they wanted themselves. Look through your kids's Facebook history, your husband collections or album pictures for clues. How many people have posted something and gone "OMG I NEED DIS!" before? Probably a lot.
Get creative with the packaging! Rather than just handing them a gift in regular wrapping paper, turn it into an experience they will enjoy. Hide your husband gift and send him on a scavenger hunt to find it. And never, ever, underestimate the sheer fun of unwrapping presents. Sometimes, quantity can mean quality, when it’s a bunch of small individually wrapped items. Or you could get the event's theme party to create a huge surprised before giving the gift, it's like double the joy!
Last things last, make them laugh, enjoy with them. Giving them a handshake with a acquaintance, a hug with the relative and a kiss for your beloved spouse. Wish you success with the plan!