Physical wounds are easy to spot because we can see them. You can see the blood, wound, a broken bone. Because there's physical evidence of the injury. If you've ever been in a situation like this, you know how it feels. You experience the anguish externally. You may even scream and shout in pain and everyone else become aware of everything you're feeling, since they also see the wound.
But emotional wounds, they're different.
Sometimes the experience is completely inward. The depression, the anger, the stress, the pressure, the anxiety. So much of that is experienced within when we're dealing with an emotional wound. Whether someone we trusted broke our trust whether someone just broke our heart, or we've just been rejected from something we've spent days and months and years working for, those wounds are hard to spot because no one can see them. They're so much harder to see because they've been hidden or maybe we've denied them for so long and they're not apparent to anyone around us.
When we have a physical wound like a large cut, we notice straightaway that we're experiencing pain. The next step is to clean out the wound, stitch the wound up if needed and finally bandage the wound. We have to make sure that we clean out the wound effectively and the good thing is we can see it so that is doesn't get infected.
It works in the same way apart from the fact that sometimes we ignore it for a long time. This means it has the possibility of getting infected more. It also means the possibility of poisoning without us ever knowing. Emotional wounds are just not as obvious as blood pouring out of our bodies but they have familiar signs. It could be the death of a loved one, it could be abuse from our partners, a car accident, divorce, or an unexpected situation in our life. The common signs of emotional wounds are depression, anxiety, isolation and a loss of determination.
Realizing you're emotionally wounded is step one. The second thing you need to ask yourself is: Is this something you can deal with yourself or is it likely that you'll need some help? When it's an emotional wound, it's so easy to really miss the intricacies and the detail of that experience. We have to really live through it again. We have to really assess and become aware of every part of the challenge. Cleaning an emotional wound means revisiting the traumatic event and allowing yourself to feel that emotional pain again. It's gonna be painful and hurtful but in order to clean it properly we have to go through it. Physical wounds require stitching, and we can easily know whether we need help or not. We might need help walking around, opening a door.
But emotional hurt feel like a weakness to share with others, to tell people what's going on when actually it's a sign of courage. You know you should ask for it. There's no need for us to feel embarrassed or less worthy if we need some support in our lives. It's a sign of courage.
We cannot wait for days, months or years, before we approach anyone. Bandaging is the last step. Emotionally speaking, bandaging your wound takes time. It includes forgiveness, acceptance and letting go. This is the longest part of the healing process. Just as a physical wound may leave a scar, the emotional one can leave an internal scar. We can't just expect it to disappear.
The point is we have to become more aware at knowing how we feel and the people we can share that with because it's up to us to monitor how we're healing. Don't be mad at yourself if it takes time to heal. Feel every part of that wound and work through it
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