I'm back to another topic which is really essential to our life: How are we treating our relationships?
You don’t feel like well-bonding to other people, there’s still a blur barrier between you and each person you met. Or you feel like miserable, tired or sad in conversation or living with your family, friends, or especially, your partner?
I wish to help you with my advice based on experience of being a person went through depression and anxiety. There were terrible memories I just want to keep for my own, hiding somewhere in the darkest place in my mind. But instead, I intend to remember all, learn from them, and take away the important points and would love to share with you, that How can I go through hard times and nurture my relationships.
The first thing we should recognize is the basic, essential and meaningful things, the things that are genuinely fulfilling all require patience. They all require energy. The challenge is we all want to be with someone who makes us happy, when what we need to do is be someone who make us happy. We sit with our friends discussing the rules, but no one even knows what game we're trying to play. Because the problem with our generation not wanting relationship is that at the end of the day, you actually do.
Make sure that you take times to postpone and reset and to engage with a conversation together. So often so many of our anxieties are actually built on assumptions or misconceptions which can easily be resolved through a simple conversation as clearly and early as you can.
Avoidance. You see something, but say nothing smile and drink the poison at least until that becomes annoying. We tend to avoid these conversation because we're conscious of the risks of speaking up but unconscious of the risks of not speaking up. None of us should stay in relationships where we're fighting all the time, but we can learn to change how we fight. Soften your judgement. Speak how you'd like to be spoken to. Affirm before you complain. Let your partner know you care. Approach the situation with compassion. Start with empathy. Focus on facts. Initiate the dialogue. Stay open minded. And remember, when you're fighting, the real fight is both of you against the problem, not against each other.
Biggest challenge we have is we're so loved to the love that we want. If you are a gift person, you give more gifts. If you believe in quality time, you give quality time. What we need to focus on is what the other person wants and not what we want. So, think about the person that you love or want to show more love to. Figure out which language they belong to and try some of these out. Experiment with them to show them more love appreciation and encouragement. I guarantee you it will increase and strengthen your bond almost immediately. And remember, this isn't a technique or a trick. This is a genuine conveyance of your love and all you feel about it. So, give it a go.
You don't just experience love one day but every single day. We live in a world where people aren't self-loved and self-fueled enough to even consider this. This first is getting over your greed and ego. The second one is recognizing that you have value and when you nerve other then there's a value exchange. And the third, when you're feeling full and overflowing you can then overflow to others.
Finally, repeat the action over and over again, love is not a destination, it's the process. Enjoy love everyday! Wish you always be happy, loved and well.