Maintaining a strong marriage is a lot harder than one would think, but it is also very possible. Your marriage can be growing in whatever season you are in. Whether you are young couples in love, who already enjoyed your perfect honeymoon, or the happy parents welcoming their first child or even just passing your Silver anniversary, there will always be some unexpected problem.
That such problems will test your love, readiness, mutual understanding and responsibilities. So how can you survive all those difficulties? I have been in love with my women for nearly 20 years, and I would like to share some of my tips to maintain and nurture our love.
Make time for your marriage each and every day. Maybe it is 20 minutes talking every night or maybe eating breakfast together every morning, just the two of you. Or better you could creating daily or weekly rituals will enable you to spend quality time together. Carve out time to be together so you don't become "two ships passing in the night."
Couples who take the time to develop shared meaning and goals are more likely to experience mutual admiration -- a hallmark of mature, lasting love. It is something not simply arrived at by chance, but is deliberately cultivated.
Let go of comparison and embrace your unique marriage. Comparison is the killer of many marriages. I’ve seen far too many marriages go through rough patches after a lot of “I did the dishes, while you watched TV…. Well… I cleaned out the car while you were at the store.” Don’t get into this cycle.
The very FIRST thing you need to accept in order to stop comparing your marriage to others is that your marriage is special, unique, one-of-a-kind and so different from all the marriages around you!
I remember when I got married I had such a bright hope and vision for our future. I knew that as individuals we were different, but that we complemented each other perfectly! Fast forward 7 years and I feel like we still mesh pretty well, in fact, in many ways even better than we did way back then. As you recognize that you and your spouse are different, remember that your marriage is different from others.
Remembering why you said “I do” can strengthen and renew your marriage. If you forget the reasons, look back on your engagement times. Remember your dating times. Look at the person that you married and find the good in them. Find their strengths and let go of the weaknesses. Write down your reasons & then compare them. Are any the same?
In the other hand, we don’t always see other’s struggles. If you were to take the strengths of others and compare them to your weaknesses you are bound to feel pretty lousy! So why put yourself and your love through that misery? Once again, you should focus on the core!
Visit somewhere new together for a fresh adventure. This is great advice!
If you can experience new things together, it will be so much fun for both of you! Go somewhere new, find a new restaurant, explore a new vacation spot with your family or just go to a new trail or park.
To me, love should be exciting, adventurous and fresh. You have no idea spending such a little time and effort can bring up an ultimate joy and happiness.
If you cannot afford time and resource for a long trip, don’t worry, there will be alternative solutions. It still can be a surprise for the two of you in the middle of the routine: a breakfast out, a late-night candlelight dinner at home after the kids are in bed, or a text message in the middle of the day to simply say what you loved about your spouse in the last 24 hours. Practicing a hobby together can maintain challenge and happiness daily.
But the surprise can be a gift for your husband or wife, too: washing and vacuuming his or her car, making plans for your spouse to see a friend, a unique or delivering a special treat for no reason. A small surprised gift with affordable price for no reason also the best idea. Unexpected gifts fight boredom (effective ten out of ten!)
Stop right here! You have read all 4 tips containing lots of thoughts and understandings, it’s all theory. Take a real action. Kiss your spouse, now. Kiss them ‘goodbye’ when they leave and ‘welcome home’ when they get back. Hug them first thing in the morning and as the last thing before you go to bed. Hold their hand when you are walking or when you are sitting side by side. It matters.
As the proudest husband that I have my amazing wife and beautiful home, I wish all of you the happiness and life long adventure as mine. Follow these tips, and follow them with all of your heart !